I have been listening to you all this time, and what I’m hearing is that you are exhausted with pretending that you feel good about yourself when underneath it all, you don’t like yourself and feel inadequate so much of the time.
Secret self-doubt, secret self-loathing at times, it can be baffling, not to mention the lengths you have to go to cover it all up and keep pretending you are the confident, successful person others see so readily.
When I look at your power, your beautiful spirit, your kindness, your wisdom and all that you bring to the world, it hurts to hear the way you talk about yourself, to listen to you list all the ways you don’t feel good enough.
Not thin enough
Not toned enough
Not rich enough
Not clever enough
Not successful enough
Not tidy enough
Not blonde enough
Not glamorous enough
Not fast enough
Not having as much sex as you ‘should’ be having
Not married/no partner…so…not desirable enough (is there something wrong with me?)
No kids yet…so…not enough
Not good enough at cooking
House not big enough or not in a glamorous enough area
Car not flashy enough
Handbag not expensive enough
Not good enough at dancing
Not good enough at getting a promotion or payrise
He/she won’t commit so…there must be something wrong with me
Why can’t I get over him/her…I must be not good enough, everyone else seems to be able to move on
Why can’t I just stand up for myself when the boss/friend/man speaks to me like that. They must do it because I’m not good enough and the fact I don’t speak up for myself is proof that I’m inadequate.
Inside I notice you are yelling to yourself ‘I am not good enough’ and ‘there is something wrong with me.’ I see how painful all of this is, and that you are done with it.
Fuck this. Fuck starving yourself to feel just about acceptable. Fuck unhealthy relationships or not going for that promotion. Fuck constantly feeling you don’t live up to some impossible standard society, your family, friends or even yourself have set for you. I declare war on not feeling good enough.
It is costing you dearly. I see how the toll it takes on your mental and physical health. I see the damage it wreaks on your finances, all that money you spend on diets and magical creams, and also not being paid your true worth. Most of all, I hate the way it keeps you away from true happiness and fulfilment.
I am here to make things different, to help you create a different future for yourself.
It is time to say ‘Goodbye, Not Enough’ and for you to finally start believing in yourself, your magnificence and your potential.
Harriet’s mission is to make sure people know their true value. She empowers her clients and audiences to leave behind self-doubt, disempowering patterns and overwhelm in favour of new ways of thinking, feeling and acting that create confidence, wellbeing, and success.
Join Harriet at her new one day event. Goodbye Not Enough, on Saturday 18th May at the beautiful Flowerpot in Hoxton.
‘Honest, fascinating and uplifting talk with of practical, achievable and useful ideas and inspirations.’
Harriet was one of our speakers at WeAreFutureLeaders, a conference that supports the next generation of female talent. Harriet’s talk was exceptionally well received by all our guests, the feedback was nothing short of amazing. Harriet has this wonderful ability that allows people to show their vulnerabilities and in turn be their most authentic selves. She is a wonderfully inspiring speaker who I have no hesitation in recommending. A real superwoman who empowers others wherever she goes.
‘Harriet’s talk was fantastic. Not only did she give us plenty of practical steps to take away with us, she also talked through the theories underlying particular techniques. I’ve already started using more positive body language and ‘anchoring’ to great effect. I’ll definitely be going to another event. Thank you!’
‘The effect of Harriet’s event has been really profound and life-changing. I feel more complete as a person. I will not rely on anyone else to make me happy anymore. It’s a nice feeling. Now I realise that we are all perfect the way we are, there is no need to criticise and be horrible to ourselves. I am learning to like myself now. Thank you!’
‘I got a lot more than I thought I would from Harriet’s talk! A lot of these things can sound the same but this was very different and well delivered. Powerful tools and tips from a woman who has first-hand experience of how tough life can be and how to take its lessons and move forwards. I definitely want to get in touch with Harriet again! :)’
‘Harriet’s event was really well presented and hit the mark on so many points. I really enjoyed the talk and came away with helpful information to put into practice.’